tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5932264804771124631.post840346778023813298..comments2012-12-17T17:56:07.187-08:00Comments on A Fob in Smallville: Who Da Man?B.G. Christensenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01604354633985676126noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5932264804771124631.post-39938766878320158862012-10-27T19:58:05.207-07:002012-10-27T19:58:05.207-07:00I haven't heard the term "sissyphobia&quo...I haven't heard the term "sissyphobia" before, but I love it. I think a lot of gay men have sissyphobia--including me, more than I care to admit. B.G. Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01604354633985676126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5932264804771124631.post-3001707374664388862012-10-27T12:32:21.628-07:002012-10-27T12:32:21.628-07:00When I was a kid, I use to equate being gay with b...When I was a kid, I use to equate being gay with being effeminate so I was always terrified that people would figure me out just by looking at me.<br /><br />And in my mind I was effeminate because I was different. For instance, I was not into sports.<br /><br />That's why I was surprised when I came out and discovered that a lot of gay men are masculine and that a lot of gay men thought I was masculine.<br /><br />Still I had a problem with effeiminate men. I had this sissyphobia thing going on.<br /><br />But eventually I got over that and found that the more comfortable I got with effeminate men, the more comfortable I became with my masculinity.<br /><br />It's gotten to a point that masculinity/femininity has become background information for me - it gives the person color but doesn't define them.<br /><br />At the same time, I don't worry much anymore about what people think about my masculinity/femininity.<br /><br />I guess that's part of getting older and hopefully wiser.<br /><br />Regards,<br />PhilipPhiliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00230261242977514599noreply@blogger.com